Date nights are more than a cute caption on social media. When was the last time you and your BAE went on a legit date night? A date night where you put the phones down and really enjoyed each others company. Whether you have been in a relationship for 5 weeks or 5 years, or even 5 decades, date night is a ritual you should regularly observe. I know. This is hardly a news flash. Read any relationship advice about keeping the spark alive in your relationship and you’ll see date night at the top of the list. I read this survey that said about 45% of couples “rarely” have date nights. About 18% said they manage to go out around once a month. UH NO! That’s not going to work over here lol
Having open communication and closeness allows you to be aware if one is growing in a different direction or at a different rate and make adjustments. Its like if you have a car, you want to make sure you are topping up the oil and water regularly, rather than waiting for it to die on the turnpike. That is essentially the function of the date night. You want to nurture the relationship every week rather than wait for it to fail.
While date night alone will not guarantee an awesome relationship, it is an investment in the well being of your relationship – one way, among many, to nourish and care for your marriage.
Here are some benefits of date night:
- It’s an opportunity for romance – it is a quick trip back to courtship, as opposed to an ordinary night out of the house. It is an opportunity to look across the table and see the person you are with and love, not the person that forgets to take out the trash lol.
- It’s a break from “doing” – Simply put, its about connecting with each other, not about getting things done. It over’s the needed break from the demands of everyday life.
- Its all about fun – date night is an opportunity to have some fun together. Unless you find folding clothes and cleaning the bathroom to be an aphrodisiac, plan something fun. Try out new restaurants, go to a concert or just turn up in the house!
- It’s a show of commitment – date night shows a willingness to make the other person and your relationship a priority by setting aside special time. When couples make the effort to spend time together and to continue developing their relationship, no matter what’s going on in their every day life, they are more likely to grow closer, rather than apart.
Spending alone time with your boo is so crucial for your relationship. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go out either. There are a lot of things that can be done in the house. A lot of people put off “date night” because they feel it has to be a fancy affair, which is in fact not true. It doesn’t have to be a 10 course meal at a fancy french restaurant with a harpist playing in the corner. It can be just the two of you chilling. The main message is that the couple is creating a unique and special time for one another. Relationships are work. People make time to work on fitness goals, career goals or family goals, but sometimes tend to neglect relationship goals and may take their partner for granted because they know they are there. Our lives are so busy and full, if we don’t make this time, feelings of being taken for granted can easily come up. That can be the death of a relationship — feeling that you are being taken for granted.
The other night, we had date night and spent it supporting a friends Holiday party. We danced, drank and hung out with friends. It was a great time (baby free lol). Its always a good time to just go out and enjoy each other. We always have a good time and always create new fun memories 😉
How often do you and your boo go out for date night?